LIFE SKILLS FOR PARENTING!
This is a challenging topic as many people will have different views as how to ‘parent’ kids and that’s okay.
As everyone is an individual including children, no ‘same way’ of parenting them up will work in every situation.
Also the children who are born today are vastly different to those born at the time I was born or even when my own sons ‘arrived’.
So? My suggestion is always to treat each child as a unique person whose needs will be different and by being aware of our own emotional needs (and learning how to fulfil them) we are are able to help teach our offspring to grow up strong, independent, responsible and loving people.
Many of the life skills I teach adults are then used by them when raising their children, including how to fulfil their emotional needs, how to build boundaries and how to stay out of trying to fulfil their ambitions through their children.
There are many things that will help:
Being observant and allowing the child to teach you – allow them to simply ‘be’. They do not have to be a ‘human doing’.
Being a joyful and fulfilled person yourself.
Encouraging in whatever way is necessary.
Learning how to ‘be’ the happy, joyful, fulfilled person you want your child to become.
Staying out of judging, blaming and/or criticism.
Finding ways to:
Let them make ‘mistakes’ in a safe environment so they learn what is safe and what is not.
Let them know that there are ‘consequences’ to every choice they make.
Use ‘time out’ techniques rather than other methods of punishment to allow them to learn what is appropriate and what isn’t.
When parents have ‘balance’ in their lives this quality will be learnt by their children i.e. their behaviours will be balanced and not ‘over the top’.
It is my hope that the next generation will live a lot more joyfully, with less fear, less judgement, more understanding, love and compassion for those around them. For this to happen, we as parents have to ‘become’ these – and in that way our children will learn from us.