LIFE SKILLS FOR GAINING A ‘WIN/WIN’ RESULT! (For everyone!) 1. Firstly be very clear what it is that you would like in the situation that’s not working out for you. 2. Ask the other person what it is they ‘want’ – what they would like to happen? 3. Really listen to what they say. 4….
Eating Disorders
LIFE SKILLS FOR EATING DISORDERS! When I commenced working with clients some 30 years ago eating disorders were rare. Maybe such things as worrying about ‘how we look’ and ‘how well’ we do things wasn’t such a huge focus as it is now with many people. ‘Stressors’ such as the advertisement pictured here, don’t help…
Loss & Grief
LIFE SKILLS TO HANDLE BEREAVEMENT, LOSS AND GRIEF! Firstly there is a difference between the symptoms of depression and grief. The main one is that a person going through grief is able to be consoled, whereas someone in depression will find that nothing will lift the way they feel – they are unable to be…
Stress
LIFE SKILLS FOR STRESS! Actually, ‘stress’ is an involved subject to define. Firstly many people won’t be aware that they ‘are stressed’. In this day and age of often living and working at a fast pace, there are many things we could ‘stress’ about. Firstly, what is ‘Stress’? The Oxford Dictionary explains it as ‘a…
Relationships
LIFE SKILLS FOR RELATIONSHIPS! There is much written on the subject of relationships and here I will simply refer to what I have found to be a few of the main reasons why relationships can be ‘a challenge’. * Most of us haven’t been taught the life skills to have happy relationships. * Not being…
Post Natal Depression
LIFE SKILLS FOR POSTNATAL DEPRESSION (POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION.) Over the years, I have worked with mothers who have had postnatal depression (PND) and the effects of having this, has caused ‘challenges’ in many areas of their lives. It can affect the relationship with their new-born baby as well as with their husband or partner for various…
Parenting
LIFE SKILLS FOR PARENTING! This is a challenging topic as many people will have different views as how to ‘parent’ kids and that’s okay. As everyone is an individual including children, no ‘same way’ of parenting them up will work in every situation. Also the children who are born today are vastly different to those…
Depression
LIFE SKILLS FOR DEPRESSION!There are many reasons for depression. As well as many forms. Sites such as ‘Beyond Blue’ and ‘Black Dog’ have helpful information including tests that one can take to see if they might be depressed. There are times when we all have ‘mood changes’. We might feel happy one day, and then…
Couples Counselling
LIFE SKILLS FOR COUPLES’ COUNSELLING IN RELATIONSHIPS! For almost 30 years I have had the pleasure of helping many, many couples through a very difficult and challenging time in their lives. I have learnt much myself through counselling them, giving them new life skills and helping them through relationship challenges. Everyone is different and unique,…
Communication
LIFE SKILLS TO HELP WITH COMMUNICATION ‘CHALLENGES!’ When we are unable to communicate freely and easily in a relationship, it is a bit like being in a boat without a sail in rough seas. There are many reasons why we have trouble with communicating and there is much that we can learn to make it…
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
LIFE SKILLS THAT TURN AROUNDCHRONIC FATIGUE SYNDROME! ‘I dragged myself to Lis Blake’s door being totally exhausted on every level with what is known as the “Human Condition!” I cannot speak more highly enough of Lis’ approach. I was given the tools, clues and prompts to balance my own life. After a lifetime of extremes,…
Burn Out
LIFE SKILLS FOR BURN OUT!(WORK.)Firstly many of the origins of Burn Out in the ‘work place’ will tie in with the underlying causes of Chronic Fatigue, (see the separate article regarding CFS on this page) and these will also show up in other areas in our lives. A few of the symptoms of Burn Out…
Bullying
BULLYING!IN THE SCHOOL YARD! AT WORK!ANYWHERE! Bullying behaviour is used as a means to control and feel superior. It makes the individual using it, feel powerful! The person on the receiving end, can feel the exact opposite. There are many forms of ‘bullying!’ Verbal: which is the use of words that tease, put down, mock,…
Anxiety
LIFE SKILLS FOR ANXIETY! I have just phoned an ex-client who came to me years ago because she wasn’t coping with the symptoms of ‘anxiety!’ I asked her today for one word that would describe how it felt to have this ‘condition’ and she immediately said ‘debilitating!’ I will add she is now a close…
Anger Management
LIFE SKILLS REGARDING ANGER MANAGEMENT! During the past 30 years when working with clients, I’ve noticed that one of the main issues blocking happy relationships is the inability to ‘handle anger’ in ways that will work for those around them! This inability to handle anger can impact into other parts of their lives as well…
Lis’s bio
I love it when my clients, after a brief time working with me, are able to solve their own challenges with the skills [...]