LIFE SKILLS FOR COUPLES’ COUNSELLING IN RELATIONSHIPS!
For almost 30 years I have had the pleasure of helping many, many couples through a very difficult and challenging time in their lives. I have learnt much myself through counselling them, giving them new life skills and helping them through relationship challenges. Everyone is different and unique, and in relationships we tend to have our partner teach us what ‘we need to learn’. In my case, I have had my clients teach me.
One of the things I do differently to many other counsellors, is to choose to see couples for counselling separately. I do this because in most cases in relationships ‘opposites attract’. For example an ‘introvert’ will attract an ‘extrovert’, morning people often marry those who are night ‘owls’. Whilst these differences attract people to each other, often later on, they will get in the way of the relationship working. Unless people learn how to get a balance with these disparities, often the situation will become too hard and they will move onto another relationship.
Another reason I see couples separately is because not only are many coming from opposite view points, they will also have very different issues to deal with. Counselling separately saves a lot of time and their money and deals with the problem more quickly.
My aim is to teach clients life skills that include:
* dealing with any anger issues appropriately;
* learning ways to take responsibility for their choices;
* ways to stay out of blaming;
* communication skills and……
* resolution skills to enable them to solve any ‘challenges’ in the future.
More detailed information regarding this subject is available in Articles see ‘Why Some Relationships Have Challenges’.
Also you could read the article on ‘Life Skills for Relationships!’ on this page.